When entering the Surrogacy Journey, both the Gestational Carrier (GC) and her family have expectations to be met by the Intended Parents. The Intended Parents, on the other hand, have expectations to be met by the GC. Both parties really want the whole process to go as smoothly as possible and hope to maintain the type of relationship they have chosen. This is where the Surrogacy Agency plays a vital role, because it helps pick and choose which Intended Parents go with which Gestational Carrier. The task of finding that connections between IPs and GCs is vital.
One thing that is important to keep in mind is that not everyone finds a match quickly. Both IPs and GCs may have to go through more than one interview. This is absolutely normal and is a natural part of the process. The most important thing is that both the IPs and GCs feel that they are getting the best match possible and that they have support from Omega Family Surrogates.
When Intended Parents fill out their application to become part of the Omega Family Surrogacy Agency, they describe who they are and why they are choosing Surrogacy as their family creating option. The Surrogate applying to Omega Family also describes her intentions for becoming a Surrogate. The intentions that both documents contain are the basis for what in the future will become the relationship that develops between the IPs and the Gestational Carrier.
This is a perfect opportunity to lay out expectations so that when the interview comes along, these are clear and surprises will be kept to a minimum. This will also support the Omega Family team in regards to matching, because it will be very clear to them what bot the IPs and the Gestational Carrier expect from their matching counterpart.
One of the key elements perceived during the conversations is the level of respect that the IPs have for the GC’s reasons for becoming a Surrogate, and this goes the other way around as well. They both have to agree with each other’s reasons. Another aspect they must respect are the feelings that both parties have regarding the journey. Many times both the Surrogate and IPs must understand cultural differences between them.
This brings out another value which is honesty., If something is said during conversations and paperwork says otherwise, this will create sense of discomfort that will not serve the Surrogacy Journey. We must remember that the medical records of the IPs and the GCs are exchanged. This means that important, otherwise private information, will be shared with each other.
Some of our IPs say that it is important for them to show the GC or Surrogate that they are good people, who have just had the misfortune of not being able to carry a baby to full term. They wish to show her and her family that they are preparing in the best way, and that they will be the best parents their child could every dream of.
When you see a person, what do you notice? What do your observations tell you about him or her? Now that you are thinking about this, you can see why it is important to show your natural self. You want to be matched with the Surrogate that is going to respect your wishes and make you feel good, and as a Surrogate you want to feel that the Intended Parents you are working with are the parents that you want to help.
As they saying goes, looks are not everything, but they say a lot when it is the first time IPs will meet their potential Surrogate. According to psychologists, the aspects that people perceive either consciously or unconsciously are posture, type of language, and personal neatness. In many cases, the first contact will not be in person, but on a virtual platform.
One of the aspects that IPs can look at is the Surrogate’s health. Many of the IP women can be too weak to carry a child, so naturally the IP’s are going to look for someone who is healthy and has no issues with birthing a healthy child. This is one of the benefits of a Surrogate already having had a child because she can put the IP’s doubts to rest in this regard.
The Surrogate Connection is very important. It entails many different aspects, and each Journey is personalized to the needs, wants, and expectations of the Gestational Carrier and the Intended Parents. Omega Family Surrogates is there to make this process easy, to answer any and all your questions, and to make the Surrogate Connection strong, easy, and beautiful.